(HSP make about 20% of the population!)


There is a fine line between caring for others vs carrying their pain and problems.

 You and I know this well. We've struggled with drawing and holding this line our entire lives.  


Because of our¬†big ‚ô•ÔłŹ's,¬†we excel¬†in caretaking, healing, and transformational roles¬†BUT in regard to our OWN HEALING AND SELF COMPASSION, WE SUCK! We overgive and overextend ourselves, and over-invest our time and energy. We¬†assume¬†too much responsibility for¬†other people's problems and take (carry) them home. Those of us who are parents of highly sensitive children have an extra difficult time when that happens.¬†


 It leaves no time of energy for our day-to-day needs,
 let alone our biggest soul visions and missions.


Many of the sensitive, gifted, and high achievers I work with have trouble:


- saying NO to awful and demanding supervisors, co-workers, work loads, or jobs

- letting down, disappointing, or not being there for clients who need us . . .  24/7

- challenging the insensitive and hurtful things random strangers or loved ones say

- declining unhelpful or judgmental feedback from friends, family, or authority figures

- confronting others about their slack at home or work (instead of picking it up) 

- not feeling guilty and selfish for "dropping" others to "indulge" in what energizes us

- regulating our emotions, stress levels, and ability to relax, rest, and rejuvenate 

- rolemodeling to our children how to ground, manage worry and anxiety, and set limits

- transforming trauma patterns and mental health issues at the root level‚ÄĒfor good¬†




For example, if you're a  people pleaser, you're probably worried about hurting or triggering others ESPECIALLY when these people may actually be the ones mistreating or taking advantage of you!  You may be carrying THEIR pain in YOUR body because you're intuitive or psychic and have no clue how to organize, let alone separate and contain domineering, exploitative, or needy energy that belongs to strong and challenging personalities (yes, these strong personalities can belong to loved ones living right in your home: a partner, children, parents, friends, etc.)

You lose your clarity when people say hurtful things that logically "make sense" or "aren't that bad." You don't trust your own feelings to set limits because they're intense, overwhelming, and scramble everything up in your head, heart, and body when triggered. 

You try to talk yourself out of your "overreactive" feelings and beat yourself up (gaslight yourself) when this only makes matters worse (and makes you prone to being gaslit by others, especially those with narcissistic inclinations)!

BEEN THERE AND DONE ALL OF THAT! ūü§¶ūüŹĽ‚Äć‚ôÄÔłŹ THERE IS A BETTER WAY, I PROMISE, AND IT HAS IMPROVED EVERY ASPECT OF MY LIFE.¬†I now re-guard¬†my emotional sensitivity as my greatest gift and most reliable inner compass.

Learning to CARE NOT CARRY has been the game-changer for me. 



In today’s high stress, fast-paced world, we need energetic boundaries (know where we begin and end) and a solid spiritual practice to stand our ground and combat compassion fatigue. 

Within a¬†safe soul sanctuary, learn to¬†protect your big ‚ô•ÔłŹ, your precious¬†energy, and your NATURAL genius to become the SOUL AUTHORITY of your mind, well-being, and life.

In this course, you'll learn how to: 

  • Re-guard your true nature and self, honor your distress and anger signals,¬†and advocate for your unmet needs
  • Ground your powerful emotions and restore trust in your intuition, inner sense of balance, and True North sacred heart compass
  • Decide who or what to keep in and who or what to keep out of your life ‚Äď with¬†nuance, grace, and fierce compassion
  • Discern between co-dependency vs interdependence and why and when you're¬†imploding or exploding your energy

Includes 3 kickstarter videos, 2 boundary setting meditations, and 1 course guide.
BONUS: Shamanic journeying guidance and a cutting cords meditation 



Topics: overview of the learning objectives, intro to being an empath, anatomy of leaky and permeable boundaries, ways to strengthen porous energetic boundaries, the 9 key benefits of an inner soul sanctuary, and how to discern between aligned vs blind action using holistic healing tools. SETTING UP YOUR SANCTUARY MEDITATION


Topics: co-dependent vs interdependent relationships, my green light, orange light, red light practice tool, layers and circles of influence that can trap us, how to safely cut cords with people (Artist: ANGELIKA). CUTTING CORDS BONUS MEDITATION


Topics: How to work with the Fire element, lower vs higher self, implosion vs explosion patterns, why anger is different than the other emotions, why it's heat, not light, that transforms, how to tap into courage to transform fear into aligned vs blind action.

: Drumming tract and guidance how to do a shamanic journey.
Instantly accessible upon registration.


Drumming tract and guidance how to do a shamanic journey.
Instantly accessible upon registration.


About your guide: Loraine Van Tuyl, PhD, CHT

I'm an integrative and holistic clinical psychologist, a shamanic eco psychologist, a Depth Hypnosis practitioner, and the author of Amazon Wisdom Keeper (2017) and Soul Authority (2022). I empower professional empaths and sensitive experts to become the SOUL AUTHORITY of their lives and spiritual missions. 


What my students say about this course:

"I just have to tell you how extraordinarily amazing your gift of these teachings have been for me. My whole weekend has been transformed with deep healing and reclaiming and feeling grounded in my true self. I know there are many layers but this is such a resource for me as a single mother. I've been working hard on self esteem to share teachings of healing without my inner critic sabotaging me. Keeping food on the table has been so hard but I feel my sense of confidence in owning my energy in my body and mind by taking care of myself. The interdependence of the whole not leaking out and not letting others drain my essential life force is so helpful."

"With gratitude and awe in your vast information and with empathy for those who so dearly deserve this wisdom and support. I definitely am one for sure. I continue to use the clearing cords meditation and fire clearing with deep gratitude for these wonderful gifts."

"I absolutely love love love this course. The timing is perfect!" 

"This course is such a gift. I‚Äôm beyond grateful. I reworked the sacred grounding and cutting cords this morning and I'm looking forward to day 3.¬†Many blessings and so much gratitude to you, the wise ancestors, and divine guidance. ‚ú®ūüôŹ"

"Thank you for this! This is exactly what I needed!" 

"I got so much out of this mini-course even as a long-time student of your work. I'm a visual learner and your booklet was so helpful as were your videos, which I listened to like a podcast. I just finished the Fire Element video and meditation, which really clicked this time around. Loved it."


This course offers a taste of other courses. What students say about my one-stop Soul Authority course:

"The course was mind-blowing and paradigm-blowing and wonderful. It felt like putting my feet into a vast ocean. The learning and connecting with the elements helped me to move from what seemed in my head like a conflict of options into a more expansive and calm inner landscape that allowed wisdom, guidance, and clarity to emerge." 

 "Having a teaching background myself, I can say that the course was designed and structured masterfully." 

"Each topic builds as the program progressed. I didn't feel like this was a classroom, but more of a journey. I couldn't wait until the next meeting or meditation to learn more." 

"I was surprised at how moving this course was. Loraine helped me to go deeper, and clear past energy and blocks that I did not realize were there." 

"Most valuable was learning to ground my energy and emotions in a way that organizes them, as well as being able to disperse whatever is not mine. It doesn't always have to be a fight or struggle." 

"I have never felt as settled or at peace as I have since I have experienced this course.‚ÄĚ

"I appreciated learning how the elements help you to ground so you can be open to learning from your spirit guides. This class doesn't have an ending. These lessons and tools help us evolve, shift, transform, and heal as we live our life. We can use these skills to get more insight about ourselves in ANY situation that comes up."

"This is a totally unique set of practices, yet also universal. I really love the framework that Loraine has created. I’ve never seen anyone teach it in this way, but it’s drawing on things anyone can tap into: nature, the elements, trees, animals. And each person brings their own understanding and wisdom to the practice, which is all celebrated and incorporated. In fact, each student is their own foundation for the practice, so it’s a very creative process that comes from within, though guided by Loraine!"

MOMPRENEUR OF 3 KIDS (4 yrs and younger)

explains how the lessons from this course‚ÄĒ re-TREE-ting¬© in her sanctuary, the cord-cutting meditation and working with the Fire‚ÄĒhelped her to set boundaries with her children and practice better self-care and parenting.

CLICK ON IMAGE to watch youtube video Interview.

SPECIAL "Love is an Action Verb" BONUS SHEETS

Learn about Self-Love Blocks, Mind-Heart Splits, No Individuation, and

Shiny Object Escapism that stop us from understanding and practicing that

"Love is an Action Verb". 

Get these 4 sheets right THIS INSTANT when you sign up for this mini-course.


Learn to use them to tell you when
and why the others are off with this boundary setting mini-course.