THE BIGGEST CHALLENGE OF EMPATHS AND HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE (HSP) IS LEARNING HOW TO CARE WITHOUT CARRYING.
(HSP make about 20% of the population!)
There is a fine line between caring for others vs carrying their pain and problems.
You and I know this well. We've struggled with drawing and holding this line our entire lives.
Because of our big ♥️'s, we excel in caretaking, healing, and transformational roles but in regard to our self-care, we overgive and overextend ourselves, and over-invest our time and energy. We assume too much responsibility for other people's problems and take (carry) them home. There is deep-rooted Sensitivity Trauma© at the heart of this. We often got silenced, shunned, and shamed for expressing our distress and objections to the heavy loads we were expected to carry at young ages.
Those of us who are now parents or service providers have an extra difficult time reversing the overgiving and may have attached our sense of worth to it but not without paying a price. We struggle with confidence blocks, relationship blindspots (self blame), and hefty opportunity costs.
It leaves little time and energy for our day-to-day needs,
let alone our biggest soul visions and missions.
Sensitive, gifted, and high achievers have trouble:
- saying NO to awful and demanding supervisors, co-workers, work loads, or jobs
- letting down, disappointing, or not being there for clients who need us . . . 24/7
- challenging the insensitive and hurtful things random strangers or loved ones say
- declining unhelpful or judgmental feedback from friends, family, or authority figures
- confronting others about their slack at home or work (instead of picking it up)
- not feeling guilty and selfish for "dropping" others to "indulge" in what energizes us
- regulating our emotions, stress levels, and ability to relax, rest, and rejuvenate
- advocating confidently and calmly for our needs and dreams due to fear of conflict
- rolemodeling to our children how to ground, manage worry and anxiety, and set limits
- transforming trauma patterns and mental health issues at the root level—for good
- willing to be vulnerable, make mistakes, and take risks that enhance our growth
MANY OF US DON'T REALIZE WHEN OUR BOUNDARIES
ARE CROSSED OR VIOLATED
For example, if you're a people pleaser, you're probably worried about hurting or triggering others ESPECIALLY when these people may actually be the ones mistreating or taking advantage of you! You may be carrying THEIR pain in YOUR body because you're intuitive or psychic and have no clue how to organize, let alone separate and contain domineering, exploitative, or needy energy that belongs to strong and difficult personalities (yes, these could be loved ones that you have daily contact with: a partner, children, parents, friends, colleagues, etc.)
You lose your clarity when people say hurtful things that logically "make sense" or "aren't that bad." You don't trust your own feelings to set limits because they're intense, overwhelming, and scramble everything up in your head, heart, and body when triggered.
You try to talk yourself out of your "overreactive" feelings and beat yourself up (gaslight yourself) when this only makes matters worse (and makes you prone to being gaslit by others, especially those with narcissistic inclinations)!
BEEN THERE AND DONE ALL OF THAT! 🤦🏻♀️ THERE IS A BETTER WAY, I PROMISE, AND IT HAS IMPROVED EVERY ASPECT OF MY LIFE. I now re-guard my emotional sensitivity as my greatest gift and most reliable inner compass.
Learning to CARE NOT CARRY has been the game-changer for me.
In today’s high stress, fast-paced world, we need energetic boundaries (know where we begin and end) and a solid spiritual practice to stand our ground and combat Sensitivity Shame©.
Within a safe soul sanctuary, learn to protect your big ♥️, your powerful sensitivity, and your NATURAL GENIUS® so you can begin to safely HEAL LOVE LEAD with SOUL AUTHORITY®.
In this course, you'll learn how to:
- Discern between co-dependency vs interdependence and why and when you're imploding or exploding your energy
- Understand and reverse deep-seated Sensitivity Shame© and Sensitivity Trauma© spirals by rediscovering your intuitive super powers
- Re-guard your true nature and sensitivity, honor your distress and anger signals, and advocate for your unmet needs
- Ground your powerful emotions and restore trust in your intuition, inner sense of balance, and True North sacred heart compass
- Decide who or what to keep in and who or what to keep out of your life – with nuance, grace, and fierce compassion
Includes 3 INSTANTLY ACCESSIBLE videos, 3 boundary-setting meditations, and 1 course guide.
BONUS: Shamanic journeying guidance
VIDEO 1
Topics: overview of the learning objectives, intro to being an empath, anatomy of leaky and permeable boundaries, ways to strengthen porous energetic boundaries, the 9 key benefits of an inner soul sanctuary, and how to discern between aligned vs blind action using holistic healing tools. SETTING UP YOUR SANCTUARY MEDITATION
VIDEO 2
Topics: co-dependent vs interdependent relationships, my green light, orange light, red light practice tool, layers and circles of influence that can trap us, how to safely cut cords with people (Artist: ANGELIKA). CUTTING CORDS BONUS MEDITATION
VIDEO 3
Topics: How to work with the Fire element, lower vs higher self, implosion vs explosion patterns, why anger is different than the other emotions, why it's heat, not light, that transforms, how to tap into courage to transform fear into aligned vs blind action.
FIRE CLEARING MEDITATION
BONUS GUIDANCE
Drumming tract and guidance how to do a shamanic journey.
Instantly accessible upon registration.
About your guide: Loraine Van Tuyl, PhD, CHT
I'm a Soul Authority transformational life coach and a clinical psychologist, and I empower BIPOC and highly sensitive (HS) feelers, healers, and light leaders (creative empaths, industry experts, soulpreneurs, and top-level execs) with spiritual guidance and self-mastery skills that help them to Heal Love Lead with Soul Authority® and Own their Natural Genius Zone®.
What my students say about this course:
"I just have to tell you how extraordinarily amazing your gift of these teachings have been for me. My whole weekend has been transformed with deep healing and reclaiming and feeling grounded in my true self. I know there are many layers but this is such a resource for me as a single mother. I've been working hard on self esteem to share teachings of healing without my inner critic sabotaging me. Keeping food on the table has been so hard but I feel my sense of confidence in owning my energy in my body and mind by taking care of myself. The interdependence of the whole not leaking out and not letting others drain my essential life force is so helpful."
"With gratitude and awe in your vast information and with empathy for those who so dearly deserve this wisdom and support. I definitely am one for sure. I continue to use the clearing cords meditation and fire clearing with deep gratitude for these wonderful gifts."
"I absolutely love love love this course. The timing is perfect!"
"This course is such a gift. I’m beyond grateful. I reworked the sacred grounding and cutting cords this morning and I'm looking forward to day 3. Many blessings and so much gratitude to you, the wise ancestors, and divine guidance. ✨🙏"
"Thank you for this! This is exactly what I needed!"
"I got so much out of this mini-course even as a long-time student of your work. I'm a visual learner and your booklet was so helpful as were your videos, which I listened to like a podcast. I just finished the Fire Element video and meditation, which really clicked this time around. Loved it."
MOMPRENEUR OF 3 KIDS (4 yrs and younger)
explains how the lessons from this course— re-TREE-ting© in her sanctuary, the cord-cutting meditation and working with the Fire—helped her to set boundaries with her children and practice better self-care and parenting.
CLICK ON IMAGE to watch youtube video Interview.
SPECIAL "Love is an Action Verb" BONUS SHEETS
Learn about Self-Love Blocks, Mind-Heart Splits, No Individuation, and
Shiny Object Escapism that stop us from understanding and practicing that
"Love is an Action Verb".
Get these 4 sheets right THIS INSTANT when you sign up for this mini-course.
